Father’s Day: breaking scheme


Times have changed, and with it, the mentality of many people around issues that in previous times we did not imagine would be possible.

Before, it was almost impossible to see a father change a diaper, bathe his children, prepare milk and even take him to the clinic without a mother.

But this does not mean that they have been bad fathers, on the contrary, they were (and some still are) victims of a culture that required men to be strong, dominant, not show feelings and focus on work, and nothing else but work, because his only role was to be the household supplier.

As the generations go by, this “prototype” of man has continued in force in society, however, for one reason or another, many parents have decided to change the chip; accept and execute their role as father.

In order to correct the way in which roles are traditionally divided between mom and dad, it is important that children grow up having as an example a family where everyone is involved in day-to-day activities. Thus, little by little we will change our environment and an entire generation.

The role and the teachings that dad leaves behind have no substitutes, they are fundamental, and no matter how good a mom is, she cannot fill the gaps that she leaves behind when she does not actively participate in raising her children.

The role of a father is vital for the development of boys and girls. The benefits of a childhood with the father figure actively present are infinite.

Dads are heroes who, without a cape, mark the lives of their offspring.

expert opinion

We spoke with the clinical psychologist and family specialist, Anderson Batista, who shed light on the importance of dad being actively involved in raising children:

-Q: What is the importance of fatherhood involved in raising your children?

A: When fathers are fully involved in the upbringing of sons and daughters, a harmony mixed with maternal work is evident where sons and daughters not only see the role of the mother as “solves everything” but also an integrated and concerned father. for the responsibilities within the house and of course, parenting. In addition, a father fully involved in parenting sends a direct message to sons and daughters, especially to boys, where actions regarding parenting not only depend on mom, as in previous times where the mother was in charge of parenting. and the father was only looking for money to support the family, but the son observes his father from a young age and is configured in his structure of thought: “my father washes, I can do it too” my father gives me hugs, I can do it too”… an involved father is as important as an involved mother.

-Q: Why does this not look like normal?

-A: It happens that as a people we come with a cultural load that is not so easy to undo, for example girls are educated to be housewives and have to do with the obligations within it such as the “fregao”, the “lavao ”, the “el cocinao” among others and that are considered as something exclusive only for women. However, children are educated to be the “man of the house” the one who has to ensure protection, security, the one who provides the money to eat and last but not least, the one who should not cry and ayyy that man is seen performing tasks that belong to “women” because those are “lazy and mamitas”

-Q: How does it benefit children that their parents are involved in their upbringing?

-A: When sons and daughters see a father involved in Parenting, the panorama of what they could be in the future changes with the example, summed up in this way: “Dad and mom, don’t preach, your sons and daughters are watching you” .

-Q: What do you understand is needed for more parents to get involved in raising their children?

-A: Give the father the opportunity to be a father, that is, the mother must guide and accompany him in domestic obligations and not say “I’ll take care of this” and take weight away from someone who is not “helping” but is part of his duty and responsibility.

-Q: What is the psychological – behavioral impact of children who grow up with an involved father?

-A: They learn to have greater responsibility where the burden is not only on the mother. They make better decisions. A conscious affectivity is evidenced among all the members of the family nucleus and above all, there is a greater capacity for conflict resolution since dad together with mom will set the limits and rules within the home but with Firmness and Affectivity.

Why did you decide to be actively involved in raising your children?

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We consulted parents who actively participate in the upbringing of their children about what is the reason that moves them to get involved beyond what society dictates, here are their emotional responses:

For my son, Frabián Elías Serrano De La Cruz, I feel prepared to offer him the best version of myself, not simply that he sees me as a familiar face for being his father, but also because as he grows up he can perceive that as a father I will be there for him. him in all moments of life.

The simple fact that he is my blood, my son, is an exceptional reason to give him the best of me, however, my greatest influence has been my father Digno Serrano Florentino who, to this day, when I am 30 years old, continues to care. for me and giving me as a father his best version; He has given his life in the most beautiful profession that never ends, which is being a father. My goal is to follow in his footsteps.

Frederich Serrano – father

I love being a part of the daily processes of my son’s life.

The main reason why I do it is because of the way I was raised. My dad is a homebody, he has always worked in the country or abroad, but when he is at home he likes to be aware of everything that happens in the house. And he did it with pleasure, not as an obligation but as something he enjoyed.

The second reason is trust. Many of my friends comment that they don’t have the confidence to do x and y in front of their parents, my goal as a parent is that my son can have the confidence to call me instead of a friend.

And the third thing is because it seems to me that it is the correct thing that both parents cover the needs of the child.

Carlos Julio Feliz Medina-father

I am the son of an absent father, and that lack of an absent father, even being at home, I felt it and I needed it, I yearned for it; and I told myself that my children were not going to go through that. Since birth I try to be very present in their needs. In addition, I understand that children grow fast and that if I do not take part from their mental formation as a baby, then when they are adolescents or adults it is difficult to be part of their life, I want my children to remember that their father was with them . I think it is the greatest legacy that I can leave them, not material goods, but rather knowing that they can always count on their father in any circumstance. Since their mother spent 9 months with them in the womb, then I am with them throughout their years of life so that they always recognize their father.

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